i don't like my mother

Crikey wintercitylover, I think you are my sister and we share the same mum. What is Autism Acceptance? Parents where you can actually say something and they will listen and act in a reasonably understanding manner and respect your wishes...those relationships do exist...just not that common.So if you don't like your mum, that's okay, if you can live with her behaviour without it being stressful or a problem in your life...go with the flow, if you need more help there's the stately homes thread...but what you choose to do is up to you tis your life. She needs to sleep, she’s tired." !My DCs went to nursery anyway so we were never back till about 6.30 so they couldn't go to bed that early. I don't really like my dad. DP and I have discussed it and agree that it's probably a good idea for me to have some counselling at some point, so that I learn how to deal with it, or find ways to see the good in her. i always get a bit sad when people insist you "should" like/love/whatever your family (the old blood-is-thicker-than-water thing, which, btw, what the hell is that supposed to mean anyway? In particular, with my mother. Do you have questions about your dog or cat’s health? On the one hand, it’s a blessing. All of this breaks my heart. I hate what she says, thinks and does. I can relate totally to what you say OhBling as I don't like my mother. Obviously I missed something. IYSWIM. I don’t like my mother. But it’s hard because she is adamant in her viewpoint and struggles to understand why I feel like I do. I don't like the person she is and I don't like the way she treated me when I was completely dependent upon her for love and acceptance as a child and much less so, as an adult. I am okay with that. Well, let me try to clarify that. I remind her that we will get back with her if it’s not a good time or if we are unavailable. Good luck with books/therapy etc whatever you decide to do. She's just not conscious of her own behaviour. I think people feel they 'should' like their mothers and that they should feel guilty if they don't, but I don't think you are bad for disliking your mother. But at this point I feel like there is nothing that will change. Everyone has personality flaws, no one is perfect, but sometimes behaviour goes beyond the pale and becomes abusive and is made okay with 'that's normal mother and daughter relationships'...no its not. I don't like my mother either. Share with Seresto - £200 to be won, What are your most treasured memories? Very critical. this is all very truebut sadly we can only choose our friends, I posted this on another thread about whether you get on with your mother but thought it might also be relevant here. This emotional bond keeps us connected beyond distances and places. What I tend to do is give him as much as I feel able, but not feel guilty that I get annoyed by his company. It’s just a curiosity. "I don't think she's horrible or anything, I just don't like her. Indifferent. When You Don't Like (or Trust) Your Parent's New Mate Consider these 10 helpful adjustments you can make. I am at the point where I can't even stand being in the same room as her. Not in a good way. But I am not her daughter. I have tried to talk to my mother about my feelings. quite immature in a stamp your feet kinda way) but I've learned to live with them a little more now and to accept that that is the way she is. What a cow! When it Comes to Politics. However, over Christmas and New Year we've seen her a lot this year and I have come to the rather disturbing conclusion that I simply do not like her as a person. I do not feel badly about not liking my mother. Most horrifyingly, I realize more and more everyday that I am, in fact, turning … Little Said cries a lot. Its not that I don’t like her. Indianapolis... Getting by Without a Stroller (And Loving It). Don’t get me wrong, I am who I am today because of her and I am extremely grateful to have her as my mother. I wholeheartedly believe that as mothers we don’t have to like motherhood, but I overlooked my ability to choose how I react to this disdain and I began to wallow in it. The 'Toxic Police' myself I presume would be one of them have all been physically and/or emotionally and/or sexually abused by our parents and yes we do come into threads like this where someone may need a helping hand to see that the parents behaviour is not okay or excusable.I can relate totally to what you say OhBling as I don't like my mother. Don't Be a Pushover. I wish she would take into consideration that we work and have extra-curricular activities in the evenings. My son is 22 and my daughter is 20. As you grow up and realise you don't 'need' this instinct anymore you may start to realise that you actually don't like/love your parents. “Blood relation is not a pass … She is healthy but her eyesight and hearing is poor, even with her hearing aids she can't hear well. Here it goes. I won’t leave her. The pair of them are like apalling, dishonest, selfish toddlers. There is so much more that I don’t wish to divulge but clearly I have good reasons why our relationship is this way. All qualities that I don't like in people. I do try to just see her positives and quietly roll my eyes at her negatives (and vent to dh!). Yes, I said it. And you certainly don't like the things they do." A browse through Amazon is a right eye-opener.I'm not diagnosing your mum btw, but it sounds as though she may have some traits like this.You may find that when you have some strategies for dealing with her, that you begin to find her more likeable again.Good luck! Honestly, I chose not to for a long time. I don't think 'blood' has much to do with it - look at the horrific things blood relatives do to their children in the news for example!Also, because it is ingrained in you to respect your parents views, lots of people go on thinking they are crap, well into adulthood, just because their parents thought/think/treated them like they were/are crap. Even if they don't always agree with you, they should act as your partner and stand united with you in public. But it seems she always throws in a guilt trip. I just don't know how to deal with this. We are having problems at the moment that make me and i'm struggling to deal with conflicting emotions of...she's my mum I should love her and get on with her BUT I don't agree with the way she parented and she's not really a nice person most of the time. She doesn't have any glaring personality defects, but still treats me like her little baby (I'm 37) and has no understanding of boundaries. I’m 40 plus years old and don’t have a meaningful relationship with her. All it does is make me feel even worse at being a mother. She's a negative, stubborn person. I think it is warped to say that you should forgive someone for treating you like crap and even love them just because of their title eg Mum. They're monstrous together. Blood relation is not a pass to be a shitty person or reason to tolerate. I don’t think anything will make him feel better except them breaking up again, and that doesn’t look like it will happen. Dig dig dig!! Special to The Globe and Mail . She's depressed, mean to my dad and likes to complain. I have accepted that I can't love everyone, and that seeing her infrequently and for less than a week at a time is a good enough solution. When we are children we believe everything our parents say and think they are right and know everything. Really, I don’t. I could have written your post OhBling, my mother has the same characteristics. Acts almost childlike. But, she's my mom and I genuinely believe she has and always had the best intentions with me. But I'm glad I'm not the only one. I will support her in all her extra-curricular activities and everything she wants to do. Perhaps she is jealous???'. I don’t like my mother. Eg have just been talking to her about my exH gloating about how his new dcs sleeping very long hours - he and his new DP actually won't see them during the week which is something I never wanted.But she said oh but I would want my evenings - yes but surely you can have a compromise. It's so confusing and hurtful.She lives with a dreadful bully, and is almost text-book passive aggressive. Is this what you are trying to say? Even her good qualities are more about her less positive character traits - eg she's quite generous and will buy gifts or whatever for people. But it's the fact that she does the things I don't like to other people too that makes me realise she's simply not a person I like. The fact of it is that my mother and I don't like each other much. I think having children makes you analyse and question your mother's behaviour in a far deeper way than ever before. evrey daughter expects her mother to irritate her so that I can get my head around - she drives me crazy that nothing I ever do is good enough for her, but that's just normal mum/daughter irritation and interaction. I have the long black dress on—it’s actually my mother’s—and I love wearing it even though we aren’t the same size. But I don’t feel like a mom and calling myself a mother sounds strange to my ears. My mother who is 89 moved in with my husband and I alittle over a year ago. It is a survival instinct. You are a team. She shows up unexpected time and time and time again. 'She also has never agreed with my working FT with children, never told me I look nice (ever) and has always undermined me when she can.I can see these are her issues and not mine but it still hurts and I would never treat a child of mine like that. I speak to her because of my daughter. It's the most given of givens: Moms love their kids. I Love My Mother, But I Don't Always Like Her. I cannot and I repeat cannot STAND my mother-in-law!!! I am not really looking for solutions - ironically, I get on better with her now than I ever did before in that she no longer has the power to upset me and make me angry to the same level that she used to when I cared IYSWIM. it was one thing to have a mother who annoyed and upset me a lot - lots of us have those! I want her to remember that we have to feed and bathe a small child at the end of the day who needs her rest for school. Then I had a child and I wanted them to have a relationship. After ten years of marriage, a year or so of therapy, and many choice words and tears, I can finally admit it. My daughter shouldn’t have to suffer because of our issues but still, their relationship is strained. I don’t like my mother- in-law. I thought my mum was great until I was in my 20s. I wouldn’t hang out with her or text her and have conversation. I have never had a close relationship with her and I have never really bonded with her. In fact, whatever she says about how much she loves me and how she'd do ANYTHING for me, her actions speak volumes about how remote, cold and selfish she is.At Christmas she massively over-spent on food and drink and then pretty much ignored us and hid in the kitchen, rejecting all efforts to help, carping about the way I did things when I insisted on helping, and looking martyred. 08/24/2011 11:21 am ET Updated Oct 24, 2011 Finally the rebels have seized Tripoli. I'm going to assume the problem is your mom and this goes beyond a disgruntled teen unsatisfied with parental authority. And then wnet on to say better to get them in bed early so they are better behaved. If you feel like you're being unfairly attacked or judged, stand up for yourself. I love my mother but I don’t like her. I’ll always make sure she has family support. Seller demanding £33k extra on exchange day. September 13, 2012. by an Anonymous Mom. I watch my spouse hug his mom on Christmas and wonder what that must feel like. Just because someone has a baby doesn't automatically make them a decent person. It is hard to break the mental programming. I feel her urge to judge. She's immature, selfish, self obsessed and not terribly intelligent. I Don’t Like My Mother-in-Law! But if she were a regular person that I may know from work or something, she would be just that. We're just sort of indifferent. I feel like what kind of disfunctional person am I if I don't like my own mother and think she's largely a waste of space?? But it’s frustrating because she takes offense that she can’t talk to her granddaughter. Don’t let people tell you otherwise. Okay, so already I’m aware of how terrible the title sounds.. but I’ve got to be honest, I need to say this shit out loud. Create an account to join the conversation, Have your say, get notified on what matters to you and see fewer ads, This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 49 messages.). But what makes me sad as an offspring is that my mother was never with her own self, in the teaming activity of a busy household, I feel that she was lonely, at least … You might think "After all the things she did do for me..." but you didn't 'ask' to be born and didn't 'enforce' the job of motherhood on her. "You have somewhat described my mum there. In the last few years, we've been muddling along and I've been trying very hard to find a way to have a relationship with her that involved quite a lot of compromise on my part (never acknowledged by her) combined with an acceptance that nothing I do will ever be enough for her and that therefore I have to accept that she's always going to attempt a guilt trip. She’d just be Joyce: a woman that I work with. But at this point I feel like there is nothing that will change. I'm still live with her because I have no money to live by myself. It's a house of pain and insanity and I'm never going back. I try to be understanding and explain our schedule. Every day, I feel her in me. Maybe you could do the same. I've also started to try and tell him when he has upset me, rather than seething resentfully. Living in different countries helps. I think ActingNormal hit it really when she makes the point that it feels unnatural to not like your parent. !But she's not really fully on my side I feel. I see mothers and daughters going shopping and doing things together and my heart hurts. I don’t like them when I am overwhelmed with their messes and toys everywhere. It is important for people with crap parents to realise that there is NOT something wrong with them, it is their PARENTS who have something wrong with them and due to their OWN self esteem problems and emotional problems they have failed to be good parents and have often made their children feel the way they were made to feel themselves.And MoonDancer, tell us exactly what you mean, because your comment could be taken as a judgement of people from the Stately Homes thread as being overdramatic and against everyone's parents with no good reason. 2. I don’t like my mother. Now that I'm 50 and she's 70, she's even more unlikable. She was impulsive in her decisions and unfortunately, I had to support myself early on in life. Cesarean Awareness Month: Behind Our Scars, See Circle City: Places to Brunch in Indianapolis, See Circle City: 11 Kid Friendly Breweries Around Indianapolis, See Circle City: Spring Break Staycation Ideas in Indianapolis, Indianapolis Staycation- Bottleworks District, See Circle City: Nine Notable Outdoor Dining Experiences in Indianapolis. I think a lot of people reach a stage in their emotional maturity where they surpass that of their mother's. Have realised I don't actually like my mother. "Why Don't I Like My Own Child?" If you come across someone who has a mother like this, ... Nobody who doesn’t love you deserves your love. I’ll help her with college (and she will work too.) How can you help me? I don't like the person she is and I don't like the way she treated me when I was completely dependent upon her for love and acceptance as a child and much less so, as an adult. We've always differed in our values and morals. Or I have! To hate. I have a difficult relationship with my mum too. Although, I should make the point that I've posted before on some of those parent threads on some of my coping mechanisms to deal with my mother. (And she’s right about that — I don’t love her — though I also don’t … This thread is not accepting new messages. But there are people out there with good healthy relationships with their parents. We don't hate each other. I don't think she's horrible or anything, I just don't like her. We're the same person. My mum visisted a few years ago and was telling me what a wonderful mother I am to my children, she went on and on about it but I don't take much notice because I know her well. I feel terrible about the position my husband is being put in, and I’m sorry that my mother-in-law is hurt by my coolness. Lots of people keep this respect for their parents which was ingrained in them but if your parents were actually inadequate you can suddenly realise with some shock years later, often after having your own children, that your respect was misguided and they are NOT people to look up to after all. All of this breaks my heart. The bits where she annoys me or hurts me because of things she does specifically to me I am resigned to dealing with. You may find a book called "Toxic Parents" written by Susan Forward to be a good starting point.Think counselling is a very good idea in these situations. I can't bear it and don't want to inflict it on the kids.In all fairness, it must be said that they are both damaged people, but I want to be happy, and I really don't think they do. That's the reality of the situation, as many members of Caring.com are quick to acknowledge. I promise she will have all the things I did not. My blood pressure goes up every time we have to talk. It’s not my daughter’s fault my mother and I don’t get along. Yes, I said it. Eggs Benedict. Today marks my first Mother’s Day as an actual mother. They were inside General Muammar Gaddafi's compound; Sara Sidner was wearing a helmet and holding what appeared to be a military uniform from one of Gaddafi's guards; all hell had broken loose around her. This is natural. Yes it is very common (in my experience) however its not something you have to accept as being normal and okay. Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Have a look too at the "Well we took you to Stately Homes" thread on these pages. Mothers are a source of inspiration and love. Sometimes I look in the mirror and see my mom. She also told me about someone at her church that is a terrible mother giving me all the details about how dysfunctional this family is (coming from my mum it's probably very untrue). I used to really look up to my mum - thought she was really wise and knew everything. But deep down I’m afraid that my daughter and I will end up with a bad relationship too. It’s 7.30pm and the temperature has dropped to 9 degrees Celsius on this Friday, January 14 | Photo: InfoMigrants . After years of thinking I had a perfect mother, since having my DC's It has slowly dawned on me that mum is a really difficult person to get on with and that maybe she had some issues that she should of dealt with years ago but instead she took it out on me and my sibs.Things got worse when I left home and started making decisions for myself it was like she felt she was loosing control and her behaviour toward me completely changed. People who have never really had their feelings accepted by their parents are often attracted to other people who have similar issues...so then your circle of friends and dp/dh all have similar relationships with their mothers and it all seems 'normal'. Now I just sigh inwardly as she doesn't half come out with some classics in her (unsolicited) advice.I remember feeling quite let down when I realised mum didn't know everything, that she has some massive personality flaws (e.g. My daughter shouldn’t have to suffer because of our issues but still, their relationship is strained. Ok. I decided I wouldn't choose her as a friend but then realised she behaves very differently to her own her friends and is kind to them. Then one night, I glanced over at my sleeping toddler and it was it as if time stopped. Share with Fujfiilm - £200 voucher to be won. )anyway, i don't like my sister and haven't since we were kidsalways wondered what was wrong with me that i felt this waynow, years on, actually feel ok about itbut what has being related to do with "having to" like people, i always wonder? I’m 40 plus years old and don’t have a meaningful relationship with her. I have told her to call beforehand and she interpreted as call when she is three minutes from my house (after she has driven 30 minutes to get here). Coffee. And they all have one thing in common – brunch! I just pray that my daughter and I have a good relationship when she gets older. I don't like my daughter-in-law. I Love My Mother, But I Don’t Like Her May 11, 2016 / in Uncategorized / by LifeChangesAdmin Recently a caregiver named Karen told me she felt obligated to care for her cranky elderly mother (whom she loved but never really liked), because she suspected mild dementia and worried about leaving her alone. Waffles. And now I'm a bit concerned that my mechanisms worked too well - somehow I've gone beyond finding ways to deal with her to looking at her underlying behaviour and finding it distasteful. I am overwhelmed with grief over this. This is more a sad rant than a real seeking of opinions or ideas as I'm not really sure there's a solution. … To live in constant suspicion and mistrust. It is very very wearing. Published November 3, 2011 . We can't choose our parents, unfortunately.I don't like my mother, either. “I want to treat you like a daughter, not a daughter-in-law,” she has said to me. I don’t even bother to tell my parents about the recital. Just because you're choosing to be cordial, doesn't mean you have to be a pushover. On the outside, my mom was beautiful. These are just some of my favorite things. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. That being said, do it in a very respectful and honest way. However they have been married for 30yrs. I don't know why I don't like him; he's not a bad kid, he's actually a… Lynn Coady . If counselling is a bit hard to access (waiting lists etc) then there are lots of very good books about dealing with narcissistic, passive-aggressive and/or controlling people. 1. I don't really but it has mellowed over time. I went through a confused phase shortly after my first child was born where I started to realise that quite a few of mum's ideas as to how I should treat dd were a crock of shit. Moondancer, why do you say that? All this comes on the back of raving since October about how she can't wait, she's so looking forward, longing for hugs, desperate to spend time with us ... the reality is four days of being with someone with a face like a slapped arse who ignored me and my loved ones, or snapped at us, or moaned about everyone. She's immature, selfish, self obsessed and not terribly intelligent. Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted? Be Like the Lady on the Train. I also think it is a natural instinct to try to like/love your parents because it is in a child's best interest to bond with its parents so it has people to look after and protect it. "If your partner plays the 'I don't want to get in between you two' card, call them out: they're not in the middle — they're your partner and need to act like it. I don't want people to know she's my mother. ohbling did you read yesterdays thread on here?think i was one of the few women who didn't like their mother so good to hear that i'm not the only oneyes it is a sad situation and what youve written here could well have been typed by mei used to get very down about the whole thing but post divorce and my new me and more positive happy approach to life i have decided that i will no longer allow myself to be made to feel crap no matter what and no matter who fromi tend to just smile about it or do the la la la thing in my headi think what ive probably learned most is that i wont make the same mistakes with my dd as my mum makes/made with me. My mum is identical; she hates the fact I work ft and phones me evry single day to tell me what a detrimental effect it has etc and of course my sister is wonderful because she is a SAHM. She absolutely adores our dd and this year for the first time we managed to get through Christmas without a row! But not for Jennifer Rabiner*. It's as if actually being happy would kill them. It’s a big milestone. After my father died, our relationship took a turn for the worst. But I don’t envy it for a second. - but to have one I dislike is something new and I feel both guilt and anger and I'm not sure how to deal with it. I am also getting over a really nasty flu virus and this is just brushed off with 'everyone has to go back to work'.Many years ago I was ill with a bug and she came round and said 'oh just do some housework and you will feel better!!! I don't think children 'owe' their parents anything and we shouldn't have kids in order for them to do something for us in return. I've never got on brilliantly with my mum for lots of reasons, mostly to do with personality clashing I think and also because I think I felt a bit let down by her as a child and teenager (lots of long, boring examples I won't go into). If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support. A lot of the time I don't actually like her very much by the things she says to me, very good at making me feel guilty, not good enough etc. Whenever I visit, she sucks all the energy out of me, it's draining. For me though, the point is that my mother doesn't behave differently to her own friends or other people. But my daughter senses our strained relationship and unfortunately she has probably picked up some of my disdain towards her. I have an early memory of being lost in an airport and being really scared so I asked the first lady I found if she would be my mom because I understood that I needed a mom but it really didn’t matter who my mom was. I think that's my point. So before, she used to drive me absolutely crazy and I'd want to scream at how annoying she was. Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. Caring for a Loved One Who Never Says Thank You Some people are grateful for help as they get older, and some take that care for granted, or are angry and resentful that they need help at all. How was your childhood? ASeriouslyBlondemoment - no, I didn't read it. "Can you help her? But I do love him. Since I was 5 I hate everything about her. Then having kids was an even bigger eye-opener. I also added that I thought I would pull back from her a bit and how I feel sad that I have never had a particularly good relationship with her. ' I promise my daughter I’ll be there for her. Thanks everyone else. But boy does she expect excessive gratitude and to be told how fabulous she is. I did have counselling as I needed to deal with the guilt and have coping mechanisms to deal with her.My biggest fear is that I end up like her. I had totally bought into her PR about how amazingly well-intentioned and hard-working and long-suffering she is. I've never had an ideal relationship with my parents. I loved my own challenging elderly father, but I didn't like him as he was so hard to care for with his lifelong nasty temper, narrow-mindedness and angry outbursts.He had never used the "F" word his whole life (my mother would have slapped him silly), but when I took care of him and he got mad, suddenly it was every other word to me. There, I've said it. I have realised I cannot expect her to change and like you OhBling try to accept she is who she is. am feeling rather cheered by all this nowMN is far better than counselling lol!! If you feel badly about it, perhaps you should seek a third party person like a therapist to work it out and figure out what is causing you to not like her. My first notion of a mother-in-law was the mother of an ex-boyfriend I dated for several years. I don’t like my mother-in-law. You may hate his mother, but she raised him and probably has a very special place in his heart. What can I do? Here are just a few reasons why. I don’t like my mother. I always envied my friends at school who got on well with their mums and I couldn't wait to move out and go to university. I think mothers and daughters relationships can be really complicated. My mother is completely unlikable too. "I don’t like to see my mother crying," he tells InfoMigrants in French. The reasons why my mother and I don’t get along could fill a book. My mother tells me she is afraid to interrupt or doesn’t want to call at a bad time. But now, I still get a bit irritated, but in the same way a colleague at work who I don't particularly like irritates me. Published November 3, 2011 Updated November 3, 2011 . And, while I appreciate older, more experienced mothers telling me to “love the messes” because one day they, along with my children, will be gone, it doesn’t help. 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